Should I or Shouldn’t I Go to the Funeral?
Funerals can be a difficult and stressful time for anyone in attendance. It is a time of mourning and loses, that can bring up many different emotions. However, one of the biggest questions that some people face is whether or not they should attend the funeral service. For some people, this question stems from distance from the ceremony, and others is rooted in the history that they have had with the deceased.
For those of you that are contemplating whether or not to attend the service based on distance, here are a few things to consider. If you are need to fly to the city of the service, yet it is not financially possible for you, by adding additional stress to you, then attending the service may not be possible. The last thing that the deceased or their family would want is for you to add an expense that you cannot afford on their behalf. If you do not believe that it is financially possible for you attend the service, there are other options that you can do to pay your respects to the deceased, such as sending flowers to the service with messages of condolences, you can reach out to the family and see where they need more support. If there are multiple people in your city that knew the deceased, you can create your own memorial service with them to help you all through the grieving process.
Your history with the deceased is one of the most important factors to consider when deciding to attend the service or not. It is all about respecting the immediate family of the deceased and those in attendance. If you believe that your presence can benefit and support those around you there is no reason why you should not attend. However, if you believe that by being there it will cause added stress to the immediate family, than the service is not a place for you to be. If you had a big falling out with the deceased, that other family and friends are aware of, your presence will take away from the attention on the person who has passed. If you do not think it is appropriate for you to attend the service, there are other ways for you to pay your respects. Once the service is over you can visit their burial site and say you final words, or you can hold your own memorial service for them with other friends that were not able to attend.
If you have any other questions on this topic, please contact us at Hurd Funeral Home.
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