Should Children Attend a Funeral?

By: Greg Hurd
Monday, August 8, 2016

Although children don’t fully understand the concept of death, it is important to remember that they too are experiencing pain and undergoing their own grieving process, as well as you are. We tend to avoid talking about death with children because we believe we are protecting them from feeling hurt and sad. Every situation is different and the decision to bring your child to a funeral is one that should not be considered lightly. Here are some ways to decide what is best for your family and children:

 

Talking and expressing emotions to children: During the time of the death of a loved one you are experiencing a great deal of pain and grief. As adults we tend to try our hardest to stay strong around our children because we want to spare them pain, worrying, and sometimes stress. Every child is different and each situation is unique and expressing how you are feeling or allowing yourself to cry in front of your children can help them express themselves as well. Be open and honest with your child about the circumstances that are affecting you and create a bond to grieve together and support each other during this time.

 

The concept of death: Children realize that their loved one is gone and not around anymore, although what they may not understand is that they are never coming back. Using examples like flowers and trees, going through the cycle of life, living beautifully and then dying is a way to put death into the perspective of a child.

 

Talking about the funeral: Once you have gone through death itself and the death of your loved one you can begin to explain what a funeral is to your child and how heavy of a situation it will be for everyone. Tell them the time and place of the funeral and go over that a funeral is a time in which everyone is going to say their last goodbyes to your loved one.

 

Once you have had a discussion with you children about the death of your loved one and the funeral service you can decide if bringing them is a good idea. Depending on their reaction to everything you have spoken about and also including them in the decision by giving them the option to decide if they wold like to go or not, you can dictate what is best for them and the family. If you and your child have decided they will be attending the funeral, it is important to go over funeral etiquette and manners before attending.

 

If you have any other questions on this topic or would like to speak to the professionals at, Hurd Family Funerals, serving Peoria and Chillicothe Illinois, you can contact them here

Leave a comment
Name*:
Email:
Comment*:
Please enter the letters you see in the image.

Comments

Please wait

Previous Posts

5 Memorable Ways to Honor Your Loved One Once They've Passed

Creating a memorial to properly say goodbye and remember a loved one after they've passed is a touching and unique way to pay your respects. Furthermore, it can go a long way to getting through you...

How to Plan a Celebration of Life If No Instructions Were Given

Dealing with the lose of a loved one is never easy, however it can be even more stressful when you have no instructions for their service or end of life celebrations.  In some cases if the pas...

Sending Flowers to the Bereaved

The idea of sending flowers has been a tradition and ritual dating back thousands and thousands of years ago. Although traditions around funerals are constantly changing, it seems that floral arran...

Cremation vs. Burial…How to Decide Which is Best

One of the most difficult and personal discussions that one makes in terms of their end of life plans is the decision between burial and cremation. However, in some cases it is difficult because th...

Should I or Shouldn’t I Go to the Funeral?

Funerals can be a difficult and stressful time for anyone in attendance. It is a time of mourning and loses, that can bring up many different emotions. However, one of the biggest questions that so...

Qualities to Look for in a Good Funeral Home

It may seem like an impossible task, while through a time of immense mourning and grief, however, one of the most important decision that you will have to make is selecting the right funeral home. ...

Unique Memorials From Around the World

There are hundreds of beautiful and unique memorials set up all around the world to memorialize historical moments or influential people. It is difficult to summarize some of the most haunting, yet...

The top 5 Funeral Etiquette Tips

It is important to be prepared for funeral services, especially if this is your first time attending a service. Funerals are a time where everyone in the room is going through some form of emotiona...

Tips for Choosing the Right Types of Flowers for a Funeral Service

Flowers are an important part of any funeral service here at Hurd Funeral Homes in Chillicothe, Illinois. The different flowers and how they can be arranged in different ways help to symbolise our ...

Tips for Letting go of a Loved One While Keeping them close to Your Heart

We here at Hurd Funeral Homes are fully dedicated towards providing you with the necessary knowledge in order for you to cope with this dramatic event in a healthy way. This is why we have pro...