Coping with Grief over the Holiday Season

By: Greg Hurd
Wednesday, December 7, 2016

Grieving can be a long and difficult time in a person’s life. Christmas and the holiday season can make the grieving for the bereaved much harder. There are many events and traditions that take place close to Christmas, which remind you of the loss. There are events for the bereaved that can make the Christmas season easier and can create new traditions. Here are some of the ways to cope with grieving during the Christmas season.

 

1. Only Do Things That Feel Right

Being bereaved can make many of the Christmas traditions, activities, and events hard to do. If you are not sure that you can handle an event or activity, do not force yourself to do them. Grieving can take a long time, and forcing yourself back into your past routines is not going to help in the long run.

2. Accept what you are Feeling

There are many emotions that you can have while you are grieving. Many people try to hide the fact they are grieving or try their hardest to seem like they are happy during the Christmas season. However, you should accept how you feel. Accepting how you feel can make the Christmas season easier.

3. Focus on the Children

Many times, holidays are about placing special attention on kids, and it can help your grieving by focusing your energy on them, and their needs. Your choices about Christmas and other holidays will greatly affect your children. Children have a need to understand why something happens. Withdrawing yourself from all family events is going to lead to questions or the possibility that the children will not participate in your family traditions in the future. So, try to participate in some of the major events and gatherings.

4. Scale Back

Instead of cutting Christmas out of your life, you should just cut back while you are grieving. You can switch to e-cards instead of sending Christmas cards in the mail, and limit the amount of parties that you attend. Most people will understand why you are cutting back on the holiday spirit. Have realistic expectations about yourself and the amount of events that you can handle, but be gentle on yourself.

5. Give

The Christmas season is a great time to give. Giving and help others can help with grieving as we stop thinking about how we are feeling and start thinking about how we can help other people. There are many ways that you can give during the Christmas season, even if it is just donating your time.

 

If you have any questions about grieving during the Christmas season, you can contact our staff here at Hurd Funeral Homes. We would be happy to provide you with information on how to cope with grieving during the holidays.

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